I came to this country for our relationship, to see where it goes. I did not necessarily come to become Swedish, take SFI, being a dog owner has been nice but not my goal. I am here for us but to do that I must be able to make sure that I am taking care of myself as well meaning taking breaks when I am burning out. Knowing when I am taking a bit more than I can chew, etc, etc...
To grow together, grow as a person. Not necessarily for fun because I already found fun in Canada.
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- Even with all other social interactions gone I cannot seem to give my family the attention/support that they need.
- Social interactions
- Connecting better
- Not able to find time to connect with people.
- Not finding time to talk about things properly
- Selective on what times we spend together
- Increased isolation
- Bad outlooks on life
- If I am getting my license I don’t want expectations to do anything else for the day.
- Pessimism.
- Not finding things exciting.
- Not a celebratory person, ie don't care about celebrating my birthday, there are plenty of days that I can enjoy just as much or more.
- Gift giving does not mean much to me.
- Capacity
- Being able to spend time how I want.
- Lots of outlets I can enjoy but kitchen chores and work seem to be the only ones feasible
- Feeling the freedom to go to work cafes.
- To go to work cafes I need the time and availability, ie walking there and not being stressed coming back. Must also feel 'productive' being there?
- Not enough recovery time
- Taking administrative action.
- Doing things vs thinking about things
- 2025 was a difficult year in many ways for me.
- Frictions upon leaving.
- take dog out immediately met with extra conditions before leaving
- Bring hat that I was okay with not bringing
- fixing loop for bottle
- jacket
- Find phone
- Initially wanted to leave together, now we are in the same situation that we were in the beginning
- Packing a backpack
- cable
- Having hobbies eats your time
- Bad outlooks - life is a chore
- Lots of options to do things but blocked by responsibilities.
Can’t do things how/when I want to do it
- Night Time
- Night time walks can ruin nighttime sleep feeling.
- All 'fun things' are during the day time leaving only the activity of coding at night.
- Very different thinking
- I like quick decisions for small things
- Only do things that are high priority or that I am only capable of doing
## Frictions
- Wanting to be able to just do simple things without friction.
- Tiring changing paradigms
- Asking specific time of when task will be done causing pressure and not the ask about the specific task
- Emotionally draining each other.
- Mismatch in what we care about.
- How we feel about holidays.
- How we feel about everyday tasks.
- Priorities seem wrong at times. Video gaming/television > Niko > chores
- Thought friction
- Reasonable vs unreasonable requests?
## Annoyances
- Not meeting in the middle.
- I'll cook you clean?
- Expressing opinion/hungry/tired
- Being able to sit in feelings and be upset.
- Not being able to just be myself
- Responding with more interest.
- Being happy when I am not.
- Being in the way?
- Bothered by small things ie turning off lights. Feels like I can’t do anything
- Quiet periods - Too early, too late, in a meeting, don't want noise.
- Bubble respect
- Cannot ask too many questions in short period of time?
- Cannot set boundaries
- Doing things if you can?? I did not want to move a step aside for Kristina walking Niko
## Incapabilities
- Being able to read the room and act accordingly.
- Most things you shouldn't need to stress out about.
- A lot of things are resource wasters.
- Doubt everything.
- Friends, freedom, and living an analyzed life leads to happiness.
- Being a pessimist and expecting the worst.
- Stoic, just do it.
- Living a 'productive life'
- Avoding being alone through hobbies.
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